10 Ways to Lose Your Wife

It’s been a long day at work.  It’s good to be home.  It will be better when you can sit down to a hot meal with your family. You find your wife standing in the middle of the dining room.  Her eyes are red and puffy from crying and her eyes are fixed on the floor.  Next to her feet you see a suitcase and a few packed boxes.  She doesn’t say a word.  She hands you a note.  The note plainly says, “goodbye.” black-and-white-girl-looking-down-sad-scared-Favim.com-195487

You ask for an explanation.  She says she’s already explained, many times, and you haven’t listened.  You sit on a dining room chair, head in your hands, with your mind reeling.  When did she tell me?  What was it she said?  Is it too late?

Guys, your wife has told you.  Listen before it’s too late.  In case you can’t remember what she said, here is my list of ways to lose your wife.

10 Ways To Lose Your Wife

  1.  When she tells you her dreams, treat them as only talk and not as real plans.
  2. When she tells you she doesn’t like something, ignore her complaint and keep doing it.
  3. Stop dating her.  Let the passion die in your relationship.
  4. Ignore her when she says, “This is important to me.”
  5. Tell her you will do something and then don’t do it.
  6. Don’t support her financially, emotionally or physically.
  7. Get defensive when she tries to talk to you about something that bugs her.
  8. Refuse to be a leader at home.  Give your wife the sole responsibility to lead your children and your relationship.
  9. Agree to go to counseling with her but once the counseling stops go back to the destructive behavior you had when you started.
  10. Have a mountain load of excuses handy when she talks to you about  1 – 9.

Is it too late?  In most cases no.  But change needs to happen.   DON’T push or threaten your wife into staying.  Start by turning your marriage over to God.   Pray for your wife and your marriage every day.  There isn’t a script that fits all situations and marriages so ask for His wisdom in how to proceed.  Ask your wife out on a date.  If she accepts your invitation be prepared to listen.  Take every step slow and with gratitude.  Did I mention to pray?  Yes, it’s important enough to mention a couple times.

Proverbs 18:22 (MSG)

 Find a good spouse, you find a good life—
    and even more: the favor of God!

Don’t lose your good wife or good life.  Listen, really listen to her.

Family During the Holidays

My husband and I are blessed to have our kids all live within 20 minutes of our house.  We have two daughters that still live at home, two daughters and one grandson that live right around the corner, one daughter and her family live within 15 minutes and one daughter and son-in-law (and now grandchild due in July 2016) that live within 20 minutes.  This convenience makes holidays grand because everyone is usually around during that time.  The 2015 holidays were no exception.  Everyone was here for Thanksgiving, most everyone was here for Christmas (one of our son-in-laws is a nurse who had to work), and between New Year’s Eve and New Years Day we saw everyone.

Christmas 2015

 

Did I happen to mention we all kinda like each other?  I can’t even begin to describe the joy that fills my heart nor can I conceive how this happened.  The only word that comes to mind is “miracle.”  I am humbled and grateful that we are blessed with adult children who like each other.

Welcome 2016

New Year’s Eve is an excellent time to shed the ending year and welcome the new year.  Time to shake off all our heartache and sorrow and leave it in 2015.  Time to embrace all our accomplishments and joy.  The prophet Isaiah writes:

This is what God says,
    the God who builds a road right through the ocean,
    who carves a path through pounding waves,
The God who summons horses and chariots and armies—
    they lie down and then can’t get up;
    they’re snuffed out like so many candles:
“Forget about what’s happened;
    don’t keep going over old history.
Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new.
    It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it?
There it is! I’m making a road through the desert,
    rivers in the badlands.  ~~~Isaiah 43:16-19 (The Message)

So, lets get ready to cast off any negative emotions we are holding on to in 2015 and welcome all that God has for us in 2016.

I Just Want To Say Thank You Lord!

tumblr_mt4ktwHpUU1spcad0o1_500I just want to say thank you Lord! I want to shout Hallelujah from the mountain tops! I want to praise Him in the rain while walking in the valleys! I give God praise, honor and glory for ALL HE HAS DONE in 2015. Thank you Lord for the mountain tops and the valleys. Thank you Lord for the joy and the sorrow that turned to dancing because You are good. Thank You Lord for everything. Thank You Lord! Thank You for all your plans for 2016.  I can’t wait to walk this new year together with You.  Thank You Lord!

No Money but still RICH!

This morning I was thinking back on a time a couple years ago when Pat had injured his back and the feelings I have may be surprising, He was off from work for several months, he was the sole money-maker, and money was tighter than tight. We burned through our emergency fund quick. I remember sitting in the parking lot of Kent County Dept. of Human Services after applying for help. It was going to take a couple of weeks to get help and we had no money in the bank. We needed food and gas for the van and there wasn’t any money. We had already sold everything we could sell. There was NOTHING. So, I sat in my van and cried out to God. I gave it all over to Him. I told Him I was going to trust Him to provide food, gas and money to keep a roof over our heads. I went home. I continued to pray. Nothing happened that day or the next. The third day someone we knew just dropped by. They said they felt God wanted to give us some money. It was enough to buy food, gas and to pay the rent (which was due). During the time my husband was off from work, we saw God provide time and time again in a way that can not be explained naturally. So when I look back I remember the time I was able to spend a lot of quality time with the love of my life, and I remember the One who gives me life, loving me and providing for me.  He filled me with a supernatural joy and peace. We had no money but it was the one of the most RICH seasons of my life!

Funny

How to organize my thoughts.  I’d love to write a blog on a continual basis, but the darn thoughts won’t line up in my head.  It’s terrible and it’s like 2000 people screaming at me all at once.  It’s always been like that inside my head.  Also, there are many nights I have trouble sleeping because those voices just won’t shut up.  It usually isn’t about anything specific just about everything all.the.time.   I once tried to explain it to a therapist and she told me that is the best reason for me to start writing.  “Once you start writing ideas, thought, whatever as it comes into your thoughts, there will be less and less ideas trying to get you to hear them.”

For the last couple weeks I felt like I was supposed to write more…but once I got to the blog 24 other ideas wanted to be written.  Then, I forgot all I wanted to say about the original thought and decided not to write anything unless I had a complete thought.  I maybe waiting another year.

Living Like A Refugee Week 3-4

FleeingRefugee Well, the guest posts didn’t work out like I had hoped.  It seems my daughters need more time to write their paragraph?   Maybe they will have it done by the end of this week.  I’m so sorry for the confusion.

Any way, we totally discontinued our internet service because it was too much of a temptation.  We have been going to the library to use the free wifi but they are not open on Fridays.  So, here we are almost a month into our living like a refugee exercise and we still live.  🙂  Like I said,  we have ended our relationship with Comcast and their internet service.  It has been an adjustment, maybe the hardest one we’ve had so far, but with a little planning we have been able to get all our online stuff done.  It’s amazing what we can live without.

Our society really has us brainwashed into thinking we NEED internet and we NEED television and we NEED electricity 24/7 and we NEED smartphones and we NEED to drive everywhere.   What I’ve discovered through this exercise is we really don’t NEED many things we as American are so blessed to have at our disposal.  We are so incredibly blessed just to have light switches, running water, hot water, indoor flush toilets, and many other privileges we so often take for granted.  My husband and I have been talking about what life will look like after this last week is over.   I have a feeling life will never be quite the same.

Life continues to be majestically quiet…calm….peaceful.  I have no idea what’s going in the world, except that I read in our Sunday newspaper.   I have no idea what is going on in Hollywood, on any tv show, or who shot who.  My friends will bring different current events up and I have no idea what-so-ever what they are talking about.  It doesn’t bother me one bit. It’s been a choice to turn off all the negative background noise. This is definitely a choice I will continue even after this living simpler time is “done.”

A funny story to share with you… We live in the inner city of a medium-large size city.  Our neighborhood is culturally mixed and mostly lower middle class to poor.  One of our neighbors approached me and asked, “Did you get your power shut off?”  I answered, “no.”  “Well, I noticed ya’ll’s lights aren’t on at night and thought your power been shut off.”  I had to smile a bit as I explained to the neighbor why the lights haven’t been on.  I could tell by the look on their face that they weren’t buying my story.  Why in the world would anyone want to go without power?  I flipped our porch light on to prove my power was indeed on.  Not sure what they were thinking when they walked away.  Maybe I just proved how my family really is crazy.  🙂

What do you think?  Are we crazy?  Think you and your family could live like a refugee?  I think you could.

I don’t want to leave without asking you, do you know how much you are loved by me?  More importantly do you know how much you are loved by God?  My prayer today and everyday is that you know how far, how high, how deep God’s love goes for you.  Blessings to you my friends…